May 12, 2026
I recently traveled to Florida, and part of the trip included hosting a breathwork session for a local community. We planned it as an outdoor event, because, well, it's Florida. All day, the weather apps showed nothing but clear skies. We checked and re-checked. Clear skies. Clear skies.
We set up outside. People arrived, laid out their mats, and got comfortable.
Five minutes after we started, it poured.
I'm talking a full downpour, with people sitting on their mats with blankets over their heads, getting absolutely soaked. I looked around and thought, "Well, this is a disaster."
The hosts had a beautiful home nearby, and they graciously opened it up for us. Everyone grabbed what they could and ran in. A few people left, but almost everyone stayed.
I was so moved by this experience!
These were people from a small community who had recently gone through tragedy. They were showing up for healing, and they were NOT about to let a storm stop them. Still wearing damp clothes and probably feeling chilly, they spread out across the kitchen, the living room, and the dining room. Some no longer had mats. Some were lying on a hard floor.
Yet they did a full breathwork session with me, remaining fully present.
And because they were so focused and committed, the experiences that came out of it were profound for all of them.
After I returned home, I couldn't stop thinking about those people and their complete willingness to seek healing at all costs. Each one of them showed up because they needed it. They were in pain, and they knew they needed support, and nothing was going to stand in the way.
I admire that so deeply.
It also carries a message I want to share: you don't have to wait until you're lying on a cold floor to reach for healing.
You don't have to be in crisis. You don't have to wait until life is collapsing around you before you give yourself permission to ask for support.
Yet I see this hesitation all the time. I have a client who has been going through an incredibly difficult period, and she keeps putting off scheduling a session. She tells me she's suffering, and then she doesn't book. I'll be honest, it's hard to watch. But she has internal barriers that are stopping her from receiving.
This pattern of delaying the very thing that could help is a very common pattern. I understand it, and I'm here today to bring awareness to it. And to remind you gently that, YES, you absolutely deserve healing.
You deserve to receive.
You deserve love and joy.
Most of the couples I work with call me when they're already in crisis.
By the time they reach out, they need what I'd call emergency repair. And I love these couples, but we spend entire sessions just doing triage. I meet with them, we do the work, we address the issues, and then they often don't follow up. They go back to their lives and wait until the next crisis before meeting with me again.
That approach makes lasting change really difficult, because the behaviors and patterns that got them there don't shift overnight. Healing requires consistent work.
I have another couple who committed to working with me regularly. At first, we met every week (whether or not a crisis was happening). Over time, the frequency naturally decreased because they didn't need it as often. Now, one or the other calls me when they're feeling something come up, but it's never about putting out fires because they've worked hard to build the skills and communication that prevent fires from happening.
They committed, gave themselves permission to receive consistent support and healing, and practiced how to deal with crisis before it happened.
Their relationship today compared to when I first met them is night and day. When we started, they were on the verge of divorce. Now they're one of those couples that other people comment on, admiring what a great relationship they have.
And I want to be clear: I'm not taking credit. I facilitated, but they did the work. They were willing to show up regularly, they remained open, offered themselves the gift of each other's love, and gave their relationship the ongoing attention it needed.
Transformation only happens through the small, consistent follow-through that creates real change.
A big event can bring a powerful insight. An intense breathwork session can crack you open. But that single experience, on its own, typically won't transform you. It's what you do after—the steady, ongoing practice of tending to yourself.
Think of it this way: if you go to the gym once, you might feel amazing afterward (and very sore!), but your body doesn't change from a single session. It's the consistency that rewires you, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Last month, I wrote about the gift of celebrating yourself and learning to receive. And as I've been reflecting on that Florida experience and the couples I've been supporting, I see a thread connecting it all.
The part of you that seeks healing is the part of you that WANTS to receive. That's you recognizing your own worth. Healing is a gift, and reaching for it is an act of self-love.
We talked last month about how we struggle to receive, how we push away generosity and kindness and pleasure. Asking for help is simply another form of receiving. And it's okay to want it, and it's okay to say, "I need support right now," even when things aren't falling apart. Especially when things aren't falling apart! When you're not in a crisis, your brain has better clarity (and energy) and your body isn't in fight-or-flight mode… that's when the work goes deepest.
When you're not simply trying to survive, you can actually tune in and start to notice the patterns before they become emergencies.
Most people genuinely don't realize how stressed they are until the big blow-up happens. We're so used to running on fumes that we've lost touch with what calm actually feels like in our bodies.
One of the most powerful things about a consistent breathwork practice is that it brings you back into a relationship with yourself. When you breathe regularly, you start to notice the subtle cues, like the tension building in your shoulders, or the way your jaw clenches when you're holding back words.
Breathwork makes you more attuned, and when you're attuned, you can catch yourself escalating before you're in a full-blown crisis.
If any of this is resonating for you, I want to invite you to try something. Before your next breathwork session (whether it's a full journey or even a few minutes of conscious breathing), sit with one of these questions:
Pick the one that creates the most sensation in your body. That's your entry point. Bring it into the session with you, and then let it go. Let the breath do its work and see what comes up.
My Inspired Breath Breathwork Membership is a beautiful way to build this kind of consistent practice. You'll have access to a library of breathwork recordings in all different lengths and themes, plus weekly live sessions and a community breathing alongside you. Whether you have an hour or ten minutes, there's a session that can help on your healing journey.
You don't have to be lying on a cold floor in the middle of a storm to deserve healing; you don't have to wait for rock bottom or a crisis. The fact that you're reading this, that you feel a pull toward growth and care and presence, that is enough.
Give yourself the gift. Reach for support now, while you can hear yourself, and while you have the space to actually receive it.
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